Chapter 1 - What Is Stress?
Stress is an intrusion on your peaceful existence. All of us strive to have orderly and peaceful lives. We tend
to develop well when we get into certain routines. Human beings are all animals. If you have ever owned a dog, you
may have observed that the dog thrived very well on routine. You had to walk the animal a certain time each day, it
had to be fed at a certain time each day and it slept at a certain time each day. The dog depended on a
When the routine was broken, the dog would do things such as have accidents in the house, or behave in another
destructive type manner. This is because the dog was actually stressed out. Why was the dog stressed out? Because
his or her routine had been broken.
Human beings behave the same way. Parents often find that their children will behave much better when they have
a set routine than if everything is pandemonium in the household. Routines give a child a feeling of security,
which is the one thing that a child wants most of all.
Many people will complain that their kids are unruly and do not want to go to bed on time. Their bedtime
“routine” involves telling their kids to go to bed. It then escalates into screaming at their kids to go to bed to
threatening their kids with punishment if they do not go to bed.
The entire “go to bed” issue can be avoided if the parents simply set a bedtime routine. Milk and cookies. A
bedtime story and being tucked in. Every night. The children know what to expect and actually end up looking
forward to bedtime. This gives children an added sense of security, something that they really need in their
We all want to feel safe and secure, but as we get older, we realize that we cannot always count on things being
the same. We experience different incidents in our lives that turn our world upside down and cause us to feel
stress. Most of these incidents we cannot control, others we can control to a certain degree. Some of us are
fortunate enough not to experience these stressors until adulthood. Others experience stress as young children.
Stress can be pinned to an outside factor or something that we create in our own heads. If we are creating self
induced stress, chances are that something from the outside triggered this condition and the resulting
Some of the more notorious causes of stress are the following: